Monday, February 9, 2009

朋友..

这是我在网络读过的文章.. 借花献佛的送给所有读者. '朋友'...有你真好!

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朋友,是你高兴时与你分享快乐;是你幸福时使幸福增倍;是你困难时使困难分解;是你孤单时帮你赶走它;是你落魄时给你鼓励的那个人。

朋友,是每个人都想拥有的人,是每个人都想变成的人。要让大家成为朋友,使朋友的关系不断巩固,需要一种叫友情的东西去浇灌。

关于朋友,在我们中国(华人)是十分看重。传统的儒家思想就十分看重,提出“诚”“信”“仁”“忠”,一直影响着我们,渗透进我们的生活,影响着我们的行为。成为我们的交友的准则。“高山流水觅知音”、“飞蓬各自远,且尽手中杯”等一系列故事是友情的深刻表现。

“在家靠父母、出门靠朋友”,这句话就说明了朋友的重要,又说明了朋友的作用在于依靠,更在于相互依靠。而不是那种为个人私利,借朋友之名、用友情浇灌的,开出的朵朵邪恶之花的行为。前者与后者的区别在于:前者是相互依靠、相互帮助,特别在朋友困难是相互依靠、相互鼓励、相互搀扶一起走出困境;而后者在朋友春风得意时鞍前马后地“浇灌”友情;朋友困难时,明哲保身、弃之远去,更有甚者,雪上加霜,落井下石。

“患难见真情,烈火见真金”这是我们,对朋友的要求,同时也是判断友情真伪的一种标准;更是说明友情需要提炼、升华。在酒桌上称兄道弟、顺利时前呼后拥的友情不是真友情;而是在得意时的忠言逆耳、落魄时给你殷殷关切之言的友情是真友情。因为它不仅不因名利的诱惑而奉承,而且在困难中得到验证、得到升华。

“君子之交淡如水”,表明交友应无所求。只有这样我们才会独而不孤,使生活变得更加温暖、更加自在。

其实,无所求的朋友难得,不妨闭上眼,将有所求的朋友一一删去,最后还有几位?因为真正的友情是“无所求”,她不应要求什么,不依靠什么,拒绝一切契约,总是既纯净又脆弱。因此总是那么容易的被搅浑、打碎。各种书籍也介绍各种防止友情破碎的方法,但那些方法都是技术性的。一旦技术性手段进入感情领域总没有好结果。友情需要用心浇灌,用生命来培养,才能开出灿烂的友情之花。

总而言之,我们不仅要培养右情。因为我们可以没有功业,决不能没有朋友;我们需要友情,更需要警惕邪恶,防止虚伪,反对背叛。关于友情,最后让我们用余秋雨先生的话作结尾吧!

来一次世间,容易吗?
有一次相遇,容易吗?
叫一声朋友,容易吗?
仍然是那句话——
学会珍惜,小心翼翼。

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谢谢网络写这篇文章的朋友...你写出我要写而没有写完的心声..!

15 comments:

marytance said...

珍惜有缘人!
愿我们珍惜彼此。

丘妈妈 said...

其实人与人之间都是讲缘分的,不管是什么关系都好,无缘再努力也是枉然的,你同意吗?

莲 said...

是..朋友..是缘分..也值得珍惜. 我很庆幸因为我身边有几位'真'朋友. 我的这班朋友都不是我认识的. 是从零开始建立的..难能可贵的友情.我们走过岁月,风雨不改,雪中送炭的感情..人生难的一自己..I am blessed!

Anonymous said...

Hi, but I think the so called 无缘 is just an excuse given when we break up or end any form of relation. 有缘 or 无缘 are actually decide by us but sad to say that even buddhists tends to use that inappropriately. Am I right to say that?

KK

莲 said...

No, I do not agree. I do not know why you pick on Buddhist. 有缘 or 无缘 is not a Buddhist concept. The word is used universally.

People getting together need a 缘. There are 10,000 or millions of blogs out there, why are you at my Blog? It is because we 有缘. Whether you found me directly or through someone else, it is our affinity.

NO, it is not an excuse. Whether the relationship of parents and kids, lovers, husband and wife, your school and schoolmates, people you like, people you don't like - it is all缘. Cannot just say 'an excuse' and brush it aside.

Why some children and parents cannot get along. Don't you think all parents should love their children? That is 缘. Why some lovers ended in marriage, some ended splitting up, some married and divorce, some got killed by their love ones...? WHY? There is more to 缘 than meet the eye. Not so simple. 缘起缘灭 is karmic.

Friends are also 缘. Some friends are here to stay, some friends are passing rain, some friends hurt you, some friends appeared when you are in need and after that disappeared... all these are缘.

You either have 善缘 or 恶缘. You are happy when you have/ or meet good people or happy things; you get angry and blame when you meet bad people and bad things - do you know why you meet the good and bad people and things? It is 缘.

I count my blessings and all my 缘 with my friends, with 丘妈妈 and the rest...and you too..for supporting me and trusting me to answer your questions.

Cheers

丘妈妈 said...

是的,缘分无处不在,即便是与物,与地都是讲求一个缘字!夫妻是缘,良缘还是孽缘,孩子是债,无债不来。。。。细细品味,你会发觉你的一生跟缘脱不了关系,因此学会随遇而安很重要!

Anonymous said...

I think you get my meaning wrongly. I am not picking on buddhist,and all that. What I am meaning is that generally many ppl just use that as an excuse. And buddhist will also use that as and when. I got nothing grudge against religion. I agree with the concept but I am meaning that many ppl will just use that as a reason or excuse for breaking up or ending any kind of relationship.

KK

Snowflix said...

祝友谊长存!!
Have a very happy 元宵节!!

莲 said...

Hi KK

'Fated' or 'Affinity' is something not planned by God or anyone. When a relationship ends, it is 'affinity'over. The reason or excuse given by that person is not wrong either. He will not give an excuse to break if if the relationship is still strong, do you agree? It is 有缘没分, meaning you have the affinity to meet, to fall in love but you do not have strong enough affinity to end up as husband and wife.

Therefore 缘 cannot be forced. It has karmic at the back and karmic is something not all can understand and accept because it has something of the past which we are not able to recall.

All the best.

c@therine said...

我想说的是有缘也好无缘也好,
愿意接受友谊的人是最幸福的!
愿你永远幸福!

小路 said...

嗨!你好,谢谢你的分享。我也有篇"朋友“和你分享,有空到我家看看。呵。。。

http://www.blogger.com/post-edit.g?blogID=5535217457354238601&postID=5730237953544661784

Lian莲 said...

Hi小路

谢谢光临.我去了你家但没办法进去.给我你的blog address好吗?

Lian莲 said...

小路..我找到你了..原来是彩虹之路.该谢过路大哥.

你的彩虹朋友我也看了..还有花园也游览了. 好happy的blog.我把你联上我的莲邦! 有空来玩..吓..:)

小路 said...

谢谢!我会常来看莲花地。

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